Sorry about your laptop worries - I know how frustrating that is ... Anyway, I'll keep my fingers crossed that at least it will be possible to save your data.:)

As for the energy it takes you keep in touch, and your the guilty feelings about it: has it ever occured to you that this might not be a flaw in your character, but something 'hard-wired in your personality? I recently had a go at an online 'Aspie-Quiz' (http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php), and found the result quite revealing.;)